I always knew that I wanted to have kids someday; I just didn’t know I’d start so late. My husband and I got married when we were both 31 (we met when we were 28), and planned to have kids “down the road.” We got so caught up doing other things that before we knew it we were getting up there. Then, I was ready before he was. I finally had to convince him that while biologically he could put it off longer I could not (even though we were the same age) and that we needed to start trying now (my OB-GYN later informed me that I was considered “advanced maternal age.”).
At age 39 we started trying (my husband was actually ready by then too) and we conceived 4 months later. At 40, we had our first baby. That was 5 ½ months ago. Now we are the proud, doting, ga-ga parents of our darling little girl Siena. We never knew how rewarding (albeit life-altering) parenthood could be. In a way, I’m glad we waited. I feel that I am a much better parent than I personally ever could have been when I was younger (of course, that’s not the way it is for everyone). But then, it would have been nice to start just a little bit sooner. Ideally, it would be great to be where I am in life now (mentally, emotionally, financially, etc.), with my current mindset and maturity, and several life experiences behind me, but be chronologically younger – maybe 30-35.
Of course, I can’t change any of that, and I feel blessed to have been able to conceive and give birth to a healthy and wonderful baby. I feel especially blessed because (I didn’t know it at the time) I had an enormous cyst on my right ovary, which could have made it more difficult to conceive. The cyst (which, by-the-way is unrelated to my “advanced maternal age”) was found during my first ultrasound. I had to have that cyst and ovary removed when I was 18 weeks pregnant. As scary as it was, my baby was fine.
Prior to having our beautiful daughter, my husband and I were able to enjoy 8 ½ years as a married couple, experiencing various adventures together. I guess we kind of did some of the empty nest thing before the childrearing thing. We now look forward to the next many years of parenting, and are really excited about journey ahead.
Copyright © Lori Granieri 2009